Thank You Grandma "Orna"

Lorna M. Scarbrough passed away at 10:58 am 12/3/08. She will be missed by her 10 grandchildren and married spouses , 11 great-grandchildren two sons and daughters in law.

The girls came and got me to go to Snowflake yesterday. We said good-bye in the funeral home. She was still warm and had good color. I took it for granted that people who passed away were cold and stiff immediately. She look peaceful and beautiful, but of course different.

We picked out a coffin, a book and set up the program-spelling the names and getting the order of speaking correct. We made plans to clean her grave site, put make up on her and in general get things ready for her funeral. Then we got to laughing at all the funny memories we had of her.

We ate taco bell and went home. When we went home we gathered to tell the grandkids. My kids didn't get it until later. (We had a rough bedtime and my kids slept together.)

Then we went to Corkey's to eat - again. While we were there Mother came. She slung open the door, and stomped in. Good thing that Corkey's was empty. She accused us of not telling her about Lorna and having to find out from strangers at 5:30 that evening.

I was possessed. I told her she was wrong. Cheska called her at 11 to tell her that she thought grandma had died, and then tried to call her back to confirm it the rest of the day but she didn't answer her phone. Mother said she didn't have missed calls. I said that I was there 1/2 the time when Cheska called; I know she did try to call her all day. Scott piped up and mentioned that if you don't have service, then your phone doesn't show up as a missed call.

She changed the subject after Scott got in on it and asked me what was going on with the funeral. I started to detail it out for her and in the middle of talking to her, she walked out the door. I looked at her and then at the kids. My jaw dropped open...

We kept eating. What should we have done?